Copy, customize, send. Keep copies of everything.
Verbal agreements disappear. Email creates the record that makes schools move—and protects you if they don't. Every template below is polite, factual, and builds the paper trail.
Send via email so you have a written record. Follow up if no response in 5 school days.
CC the district-level coordinator on this email. Keep your tone professional—the calm email is the one that works in a file folder later.
This starts a legal timeline. The school must respond within 10 school days in Oregon.
Get the attendance-coding agreement in writing. It's the difference between a support plan and a truancy letter.
Always document incidents in writing, even if you also discussed them verbally. One email per incident—patterns become visible and undeniable.
Send this within 24 hours of every school meeting. Un-corrected recaps become the de facto record, and "please reply with corrections" politely shifts the burden.
A note on scope: Parent-to-parent education, not legal advice. Timelines cited are Oregon's; other states differ. For disputes that are going sideways, a special education advocate changes the math—Autism Society of Oregon can help you find one.